I called the bureau and a bureaucrat answered – Day 1 at Pictured Rocks

My daughter Jocelyn is temporarily home from college so we squeezed in a hiking trip at Pictured Rocks National Lakeshore. It’s located in the upper peninsula of “The Great Lakes State.”

Day One

Halfway into our seven-hour drive from northern Illinois (Rockford) to the central upper peninsula (Munising, Michigan), I realized I forgot to print my park pass. That’s the one-page “proof of purchase” you buy online, print at home and place on your dashboard whenever you park in a Painted Rocks parking lot. If you don’t display your ticket in the national park, you could get fined or, I dunno, towed or fed to the mosquitoes. 

Knowing we wanted to legally hike, I texted our motel to see if I could print the pass in their office but she said they didn’t have a printer. She suggested the local visitor’s bureau located a block from the motel.

I called the bureau and a bureaucrat answered. I told her I was looking for a business center to print my park pass.

“You kinda can’t print anywhere in town except here,” she said, “so it’ll cost $5.00.”

“I don’t mind paying,” I told her, “but it’s only one page.”

“Yeah,” she said. “You kinda can’t print anywhere else in town.” She said something about throwing in a map, which we didn’t need or want.

I generally don’t believe in time-travel, but when the bureaucrat told me I was going to have to pay up, I was instantly transported to Cornell College in the year 1991. I could suddenly my college roommate’s 20-year-old voice angry-whispering the following three words into my ear:

bamboozling bureaucratic bullshit!

I don’t know if she still does, but back in the day, Patty had a knack for alliteration. If she felt someone was trying to rip her off — like a tuition hike or an ATM fee — she’d mutter the triple-b with a disgusted look on her otherwise innocent face. Now, 33 years later and with more than 2000 miles separating us, I heard her glorious poetry ringing in my ears. 

***

I know five dollars isn’t a lot of money but charging that much for a lousy piece of paper is a crappy way to welcome a visitor. I wondered how many other junk fees awaited us in Munising, Michigan.

***

As I drove, Jocelyn looked up the local library’s website on her phone and learned it would cost 15 cents to print one piece of paper. When we got there, we had the pass printed and tried to pay, but the librarian shooed away the five-dollar bill like it was a pesky fly. 

“It would be silly to charge for a single piece of paper,” she said, proving once again that libraries are the cornerstone of humanity and librarians are the best people on the planet. 

***

After we procured our park pass, we checked into our motel. It had two beds, a small bathroom and a Keurig for morning coffee. It offered air conditioning but, even better, the windows opened! It was the perfect place to clean up and rest after long, muddy hikes. After we unpacked, we hit the trails.

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It was lightly raining and getting late but Munising is on the western “side” of the Eastern Time Zone so we had until 9:22 p.m. to safely hike! In Rockford, we would have only had until 8:18 p.m. This scientific shit blows my mind and if you told me the government has something to do with it, well, I’d probably die. 

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Anyway, first we hiked an easy half-mile through the Sand Point Marsh Trail, then up and into the North Country Scenic Trail and back. Because it was lightly raining, everything seemed to appear in grayscale (see unfiltered photo above) but once the rain let up, the colors came out in full.

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A rainbow appeared and soon after we saw a Sandhill Crane family (the parents and their two colts) cruising through the woods. Zoom in to see the colts! 

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Not long after we saw the crane family, we encountered this lovely little waterfall.

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The “tiny” waterfall on the North Country Scenic Trail whetted our
appetite for a “destination” waterfall so we ventured to Munising Falls next and hiked a short distance to this dramatic 50-foot waterfall. Even though this picture (below) was taken at 8:53 p.m., there was still plenty of daylight. Amazing. 

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Day One — Beary the Lede

We saw a black bear! Honestly, this part of Day One deserves to be at the tippy-top of this blog post, but sometimes ya just gotta bury — or in this case beary — the lede.

After we hiked a couple miles from Sand Point Beach, we drove to Munising Falls. That’s when we saw a bear on the forest side (the left side) of the road. I saw its massive black side and some branches moving up and down. Jocelyn saw its face! We instinctively and collectively held our breath as I stopped and backed up our Bronco (our vehicle, not an actual horse) so we could continue to admire it. This lasted several seconds before it realized it was being watched, turned away and “disappeared” into the woods. We exhaled (dramatically, because we’re dramatic people) and continued driving.

The movement of the bear and the surrounding bushes instantly reminded me of the bell hooks (she did not capitalize her name) poem
Appalachian Elegy.

We recite this beautiful poem at every Winter Solstice Poetry Caroling Festival so when I saw the bear “stamping down plants and pushing back brush” I instantly “saw” the poem at the same time I saw the bear. I love when poetry lights the way.

And I love that the bear let us see him, if only for a few seconds. Our hearts were pounding and full.

Thanks for reading about Day One. Have you been to Pictured Rocks? -Connie

Poetry Lovers, 
Here's the excerpt I remembered from the bell hooks "Appalachian Elegy" poem:

night moves
through the thick dark
a heavy silence outside
near the front window
a black bear
stamps down plants
pushing back brush
fleeing manmade
confinement
roaming unfettered
confident
any place can become home
strutting down
a steep hill
as though freedom
is all
in the now
no past
no present

P.S. It’s worth mentioning that Jocelyn works at her college’s music library and occasionally prints a page or two — for free — for students and professors. And I occasionally print multiple pages for fellow writers, also for free. Haven’t we all been in a printer crisis? If you are able, just print the damn pages!

Good morning, Rockford

Daily writing prompt
What are 5 everyday things that bring you happiness?

When my husband wakes up in the morning, he slides open our bedroom curtains, peers through the window and says, “Good morning, Rockford!” I laugh every single time because, you see, Jesse hates Rockford and I sorta do too. But starting the day with a little irony is something that brings us both a little happiness. Recommend.

Four more very simple “everyday things” that bring us happiness include:

  • waving the other driver in
  • answering our email & texts with alacrity
  • speculating who –or what — our new next-door neighbor is (currently think it’s a out-of-state dude running an Airbnb)
  • hiking in or at nearby woods and prairies

Now here are some simple, everyday things that bring me happiness:

  • fresh water in clean bowls for our cats & dog
  • backyard wildlife
  • our Little Library
  • not using the Oxford comma
  • seeing what the Royal Family is up to

And here are five things that bring Jesse everyday happiness:

  • being nice to gruff people
  • his decibel meter (not a euphemism — he likes measuring sound levels)
  • socks that are especially snug around his arches
  • combing his beard while he talks to me or the kids
  • his backyard pond and goldfish

Things that don’t happen every single day, rather weekly or monthly, that bring us happiness include:

  • paying extra principal on the mortgage
  • finding a really insightful book, podcast, series or movie
  • playing Trivia or meditating on “interactive” Netflix
  • TSA pre-check
  • watching Wheel of Fortune

And here are a five happiness-inducing things that happen a few times a year:

  • when the price of gas goes down for a few days
  • when a new animal (wild or domesticated) visits our yard or house
  • camping and hiking in a different state
  • discovering a new recipe that our entire family loves
  • Cookie Dasher

The real happiness comes from:

  • each other
  • our kids
  • our extended family
  • theatre / performance art
  • our friends
  • our pets

But you already know that. Thanks for reading! -Connie

P.S. That is not our dog. He just hung out in our backyard for a few minutes. That’s Angelo on his way to school.

P.P.S. We also kinda love Rockford. That’s just how it goes.

The Gong Show

Daily writing prompt
What was the best compliment you’ve received?

When I was 24, I stage managed the musical The King and I at Paul Bunyan Playhouse in Bemidji, Minnesota. Part of our set included an enormous gong that was struck with a felt mallet at key at dramatic and comedic moments. You really can’t have The King and I without a gong.

And you really can’t have a gong without a mallet.

In the 90s, I bunched up tube socks around my ankles.

One tech rehearsal I was made aware that the mallet was missing so I quickly fashioned one out of a tree branch, my tube socks and some gaffer’s tape.

I brought it to the director for approval. I remember watching the muscles in his forearm twitch as he tested the weight and movement of the mallet.

“It’s the right size and it’s a good weight,” he said.

When he finally struck the gong, he was pleased. He said, “You’re an artist.” He handed it back to me and walked away.

Did I immediately fall in love with the director? Naturally! Did I instantly commit my entire being — even more than I already had — to theatre for the rest of my life? Absolutely! And did the director’s compliment render me so unfocused and flustered that I proceeded to screw up the rest of my tech cues at that rehearsal? Of course!

There are two morals to this story:

(1) Don’t compliment nerds. We cannot handle it.

(2) Every home should have a gong.

We have one and it regularly gets “gonged” for dramatic and comedic effect. We’ve had it for years and I think of my “sock mallet” every time it gets gonged.

Thanks for reading! -Connie

My bio inside the program for The King & I. I never noticed the ad for the “certified sex therapist” until today!

Rockin’ Robinette

Daily writing prompt
What is your middle name? Does it carry any special meaning/significance?

President Joe Biden’s middle name is Robinette. It’s his grandmother’s maiden name. He shares his first and middle name with his late father. It’s a family name and it suits the soft, middle part of him. He’s sensitive, understands the wide range of family dynamics and is respectful of women.

***

President Joseph Robinette Biden, Jr. delivered a strong State of the Union speech on Thursday night. He’s a compassionate speaker and can think on his feet without saying “um” or relying on idiotic sound bites. He shuns gimmicks and looks his opponents in the eye when he speaks. He’s brave, sincere and unflappable. He’s human, confident and a good president. I was pleased with his speech.

***

I watched Katie Britt’s “response.” She’s the junior senator from Alabama. Her middle name is Elizabeth which means “God’s promise” and, if you watched, you already knows she sees herself as a savior. With her cross necklace dangling above her cleavage, Katie invited America into her bedroom kitchen for her “response” to the president’s address.

It wasn’t a response. Her pre-written cliche-driven speech only once mentioned the State of the Union. Zero insight.

But what a performance. She leaned into the camera and gasped for air while her chest flushed red with passion — all while warning us about immigration! I bet she can burp on command, too.

I would have been interested in what she had to say in response to the speech. But she didn’t. She didn’t work Biden’s speech. She worked the camera. While it’s a skill to know how to look into a camera, it means nothing if you can’t think for yourself, on your feet and respond to the newest information.

***

After Britt’s speech, I decided to watch Jimmy Fallon. I thought a little late night TV would help me drift into sleep. It did not.

Fallon kicked off his monologue with ageist “jokes” against Biden. Within seconds, he mocked the president’s eyesight. I turned it off.

***

Fallon’s middle name is Thomas which means “twin.” Last night he was Britt’s twin in that neither of them said anything new, insightful or honest.

I have no respect for politicians or entertainers who can’t be bothered to listen to the most current information and truthfully respond. Relying on stereotypes, ageism and someone else’s marketing isn’t progress.

***

Fallon and Britt seem older to me than the president.

***

Like the name “Robinette,” President Joe Biden is unique. He’s a visionary who deserves a second term.

***

My middle name is Valerie which means “strength” and I need some to get me through this election season. Vote Blue. Anything else is for the birds.

Thanks for reading. -Connie

My first WTF moment

Daily writing prompt
What experiences in life helped you grow the most?

I have a read-thru of my new play The Quarter Millennial Experience today. As is often the case before my writing gets a reading, my mind and heart are flashing with “the experiences in life” that helped me grow and — to the point of this blog post — inspired me to write my play.

***

My parents had our house remodeled during the summer of 1976. That was the year of the Bicentennial, the 200th anniversary of the signing of the Declaration of Independence. In the days leading up to the remodeling, I remember my mother sitting at the kitchen table poring over a wallpaper sample book from Ethan Allen.

The book was enormous. I had never seen one so big. It was wider than it was tall and it smelled of different fabrics and paper and paste and staples.

She motioned me over and we looked through it together. I was fascinated. There was a whole section dedicated to the Bicentennial. It was filled with red, white and blue wallpaper embellished with patriotic touches glorifying the “Spirit of ’76” which confused me.

I had to ask her what the “Bicentennial” was. When she explained it to me, my six-year-old mind was blown. I had just finished First Grade at a Catholic school — I was shocked to learn that America was younger than Jesus. It was my first “WTF” moment.

***

My parents did not choose any of the Bicentennial-themed wallpaper.

***

My parents wallpapered their kitchen with scenes and icons from farm life. It was glorious.

It had a farmer and farmer’s wife. It had a dead hog. It had a basket that said “eggs” on it. It had a woman milking a cow and a farmer plowing a field. It had a rooster and a hen and horses and a bundle of wheat and a tomato. I. LOVED. IT.

I used to sketch scenes from it in my notebooks. I also made up stories about the wallpaper characters. I remember writing my parents a note and signing it “The Lady on the Wallpaper.”

The wallpaper is nearly 50 years old. It is still up in my mom’s kitchen. My mom and the wallpaper continue to inspire and amuse me to this day.

My mom in front of her kitchen wallpaper.

***

A few days ago, I shared a picture of the kitchen wallpaper on Facebook. My brother texted me and said he liked the picture. I told him I thought it was the best wallpaper in the world and he wrote, “Naaahh, their old bathroom wallpaper was even better.”

I had forgotten about their old bathroom wallpaper. Couldn’t remember a single detail.

My brother texted, “Oh boy…it was something…included slightly ribald imagery suggesting male and female parts.”

I still couldn’t remember it, even if it was ribald.

He added, “Also great graphic design and colors.”

Nothing clicked in my brain. My mind was blank. A few minutes later he sent me pictures and said, “The internet comes thru.”

The wallpaper in my parent’s bathroom.

I immediately remembered it! I also immediately wondered how in the heck I could forget something so risque?

The year the wallpaper went up was also the year I was learning to read and write in cursive. As an emerging reader, I thought the towel that said “his” actually said “let’s” on it. It made sense in my brain: “let’s take a bath” or “let’s read in the tub.” I remember I was confused by the squiggly lines on the newspaper. I didn’t know they were just squiggly lines and admonished myself for not being able to read them.

I thought “his” said “let’s.”
Who was George? Why was he drinking in the bathtub?

The bathroom wallpaper is long gone. I’m glad the kitchen wallpaper remains.

The Quarter Millennial Experience takes place several months before the 250th anniversary of the signing of the Declaration of Independence. It’s a romantic comedy about racism. Madeline and Bryce learn that both their grandmothers have the same kitchen wallpaper. At one point, Madeline fondly recollects her grandmother’s wallpaper and says, “When I own a home, I’m going to wallpaper the whole house.”

I’m 54 years old. I thought by now I would have wallpapered something but I still haven’t wallpapered a single room. Maybe this summer…

Thanks for reading. Yikes! It’s time for me to go to the read-thru! I have to go! -Connie

Awesome wallpaper.

I’ll ‘take a cup o’ kindness yet for the sake of auld lang syne’

Daily writing prompt
What is your favorite drink?

When I was a kid, my family received a Christmas card that included a recipe for “The Perfect Christmas.” It was a red card with gold lettering and for reasons I still don’t understand, the “nice” words were capitalized. It went something like this.

Take one cup of Joy 
and mix in a teaspoon of Peace.
Add a pinch of Magic
and stir with Hope.
Sprinkle with Love.
Serves EVERYONE.

When I read the Christmas card, I was immediately disgusted. “Add a pinch of Magic?” “Sprinkle with Love?” Why would anyone write something so corny? And why would someone send us something so stupid? Did they think we were morons? Was this person a moron?

***

The person, I later learned, was not a moron. At the time, they were pursuing degrees in math and nuclear physics. They graduated with flying colors and for decades have taught at an Ivy League school. So…not a moron but a brainiac who was just being nice.

This was neither the first nor last first time I got something completely wrong.

***

I don’t know why I was so “triggered” by that silly Christmas card. Nowadays, I love to send and receive Christmas cards. The cornier, the better.

***

In the classic film “It’s a Wonderful Life,” George Bailey gets something “completely wrong.” Long story short: He attempts suicide but through divine intervention and community goodwill, survives. At the end of the film, the whole town gathers in his living room and sings “Auld Lang Syne,” a Scottish song that includes the line, “We’ll drink a cup of kindness yet for the sake of auld lang syne.”

***

I do my best to drink eight cups of water a day but maybe I should start drinking eight cups of a kindness a day, too. Can’t hurt and maybe it will make me less judgmental.

Thanks for reading. Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to go hydrate. -Connie

Auld Lang Syne

Should auld acquaintance be forgot
And never brought to mind?
Should auld acquaintance be forgot
And the days of auld lang syne?
For auld lang syne, my dear
For auld lang syne
We'll drink a cup o' kindness yet
For the sake of auld lang syne
And surely you will buy your cup
And surely I'll buy mine!
We'll take a cup of kindness yet
For the sake of auld lang syne
We two have paddled in the stream
From morning sun till night
The seas between us Lord and swell
Since the days of auld lang syne
For old acquaintance be forgot
And never brought to mind
Should old acquaintance be forgot
For the sake of auld lang syne?
For old acquaintance be forgot
And never brought to mind
Should old acquaintance be forgot
In the days of auld lang syne?
For auld lang syne, my dear
For auld lang syne
We'll drink a cup o' kindness yet
For the sake of auld lang syne

Connie and the Mild, Fine, Routine, Day Like Any Other

Daily writing prompt
You get some great, amazingly fantastic news. What’s the first thing you do?

I am an optimist but things don’t happen on an “great, amazingly fantastic” level in my world. They also don’t happen in an “Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day” way. But anytime I have “news,” I talk to my husband.

There have been the “biggies” that I’ve, of course, told him immediately:

  • I’m pregnant
  • I got the job
  • They turned me down

There have been texts that aren’t necessarily urgent but are important.

  • Paul Reubens died
  • Wordle in two
  • They closed the Starbucks at the Belvidere Oasis wtf

I have texted him news that may seem ordinary but is actually quite shocking:

  • I just saw the mayor and he was wearing shorts
  • Karl is being nice to me today
  • Tiffany told me she likes anal

And I’ll text him quick photos like the one below that require no words. Because you don’t know me, I’ll explain the photo: Our son Sam fell asleep while strumming his guitar.

Sharing our daily news, breaking or boring, is our “great, amazingly fantastic” way of life over here and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Thanks for reading my not-so-great, un-amazingly non-fantastic blog! -Connie

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A few of you asked where we hike, so….

I’ve never “reblog” button before but thought I’d share our Rockford Fringe blog post with you because some of you have asked me where we hike. My dad once told me, “If one person asks, then twelve people care” and I’ve been operating on that scale for as long as I can remember.

We hike all over, but I’m including a short blog (above) about where we hike in the winter.

Hope this information helps and remember, our hikes are free and open to the public so join us!

-Connie

Fatty’s shorty

Bloganuary writing prompt
What do you complain about the most?

For as long as I can remember, I have gained weight every winter. I usually lose it in the spring and summer, but once it starts to cool off, I pack on the pounds.

A few nights ago I asked my husband Jesse, “How much weight can I gain before you stop loving me?”

“I won’t stop loving you, Connie.”

“You sure?” I asked. “It’s getting pretty bad.”

“I’m sure.”

“We have months to go before it’s warm again.”

“I’m sure.”

***

And of course he won’t stop loving me and I won’t stop loving him.

***

When you are lucky enough to love — and be loved — unconditionally, it’s unnecessary to spend even one second publicly complaining.

***

Jesse and I are headed to Tuesdays@9 so I only had a few minutes to write a shorty tonight. Thanks for reading a blog post I will resist calling “Fatty’s Shorty.”

-Connie

P.S. The photo is from the holiday show at Tuesdays@9 Chicago when I played Santa. No padding needed for my costume!

P.P.S. I couldn’t resist.

He won’t believe it, not even in heaven

Bloganuary writing prompt
What are your favorite sports to watch and play?

The morning after the Cubs won the 2016 World Series, I saw my neighbor in his front yard. I was neatening my little library and he was walking toward his car which was parked on the street. It was unusual for his car to be there. He usually parks in his driveway, which has a “Cubs Fan Only” sign in it.

“You must be in a pretty good mood today,” I said to him.

He crossed over to me and said, “I am.” He was smiling and looked joyous.

He shared with me me how he had “watched” the game with his adult daughters over the phone and how stressful and fun it was. He told me how happy they all were when the Cubs won. He was still smiling.

“I picked up a few extra copies of the paper this morning,” he said as he patted the newspaper that was tucked under his arm.

He told me he was on his way to meet his brother at their dad’s gravesite. He unfurled his newspaper. It had CUBS WIN plastered across the front page.

“I’m going to leave this for my dad,” he said. “He won’t believe it, not even in heaven.” And off he went.

I loved that moment, but I don’t watch or play sports or necessarily believe in heaven. But I love it when my friends’ and families’ teams win.

Thanks for reading. -Connie

P.S. I live in Rockford have been commuting weekly to Chicago for several years. It was fun to see the city skyline light up in different ways to support their team during the games.